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Other Losses

 Since I started this blog a few days ago, Queen Elizabeth II has died, aged 96 - plus my next-door neighbour's husband, also over 90.  My poor neighbour is utterley bereft.  Her husband had been suffering from dementia for a couple of years but his condition had worsened recently and he was in hospital for a couple of weeks before dying in his sleep.  He and his wife had also lost one of their sons earlier this year - quite near the time my husband died.  She has, therefore, lost two of her loved ones in quick succession - and she is in here eighties.  So sad and hard for her to bear.  Caring for a husband with dementia made it impossible for her to grieve for her son...and now she's bearing the grief of both losses. Sorry as I am for the Queen's passing, the contrast in our situations has hit me quite hard.  Driving back from the hospital following my father's death (in 2013) and from the hospice in May this year after my husband died (both late...
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Introduction

I'm writing this blog as a way of trying to help myself find a way through this f***ing awful maze of grief called widowhood.  If it helps someone else along the way then great. I'm quite new to this - widowhood and blogging - so please forgive me if I jump around a bit.  To be honest, my head is full of cottonwool these days.  Some days I can barely remember my own name and I struggle to work out what day it is.  I had absolutely no idea that grief would be this bad and I have little to no idea how to figure it out.  I do, however, have to write everything down on both a physical and digital calendar.  And even then, I manage to get dates, times and events horribly mixed up.  Some background info..... MLH  (My Late Husband) died four months ago at the beginning of May, 2022, just before his 70th birthday.  He had bowel cancer which had been diagnosed 15 months earlier.  Despite doing his "poo stick" tests (after some nagging from me) at...
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